A letter to my childless wife on Mother’s Day

I had to share this since it was a sweet gift to receive on Mother’s Day. He got some backlash for it, but it was exactly what I needed to hear.


My dear Kayla,

Today must be a difficult day to endure the hardship of not being a mother yet.  Your desire to bring children into this world with a loving father and mother who are married and committed is becoming more and more rare. So why does a loving God withhold beautiful children into our family when unwanted teenage pregnancies are all too common and abortions are a daily occurrence. Frustration is an understatement.
You’ve been crushed by death of loved ones your entire adult life, but why are we unable to join in God’s plan by creating life? I wish I had the answer.

Some may not know how infertility has tormented you, because of your positivity and constant positive attitude. 

I’m the only one to see your midnight tears. I’m the only one to know how deeply this crushes you. But I have faith. I don’t understand why…

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4 thoughts on “A letter to my childless wife on Mother’s Day

  1. I had fertility problems for almost 10 years. I finally got a little girl in 2008 but have not been able to have any more. I know heavenly father gives me these trials to make me stronger and I’m now grateful that things worked out the way they did as I realise the Lord knew what was best for me all along. Thanks for sharing. It’s nice to connect with another LDS mother. Angela xx

    My fertility story: http://wp.me/p5XRN6-7H

  2. I am so sorry for your pain. I have walked in your shoes and Mother’s Day was always extra hard to endure. Sitting in church, listening to the primary kids sing, (not to me though) the young man trying to force that stupid flower on me or the mom who has so many kids she doesn’t even care anymore more was always a low point of the day. But I promise, one day it will change. It may happen in the blink of an eye and suddenly all the pain will be erased. I always wish I could have gone back in time to reassure myself that it will get better. To stop crying, to let the pain go. Of course I never would have learned what I needed to or perhaps I if I had acted sooner or later my little ones would have gone elsewhere.
    My in vitro failed on a Tuesday, and the very next day I called an adoption agency out of the blue and they had a little boy born that very night that became my son. From the low of the low to the highlight of my life in 24 hours. It can happen! Keep strong, keep praying and it WILL happen.

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