God will give you more than you can handle: I guarantee it.

There’s a certain phrase I’ve come to really dislike.

All my life, I’ve heard this phrase whenever I go through a rough patch. *And by rough patch, I mean a prickly, gnarly patch that leaves me bleeding to near death*. You’re probably familiar with those kinds of “patches”.

“God will never give you more than you can handle” is the phrase I’m referring to.

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And it’s a sweet sentiment, really. The people who say it are speaking from caring and concerned hearts.

BUT–it isn’t true.

I know that sounds harsh, but I promise I haven’t suddenly lost my mind or have become an angry-with-God bitter woman who hates the world. Actually, when I realized the simple fact that God can–and will–give us more than we can possibly bear, it got easier.

And it all started to make more sense.

I’ve often trudged through trials that overwhelm me. Ever since my childhood there have been trials that have made me “grow up” pretty fast. But granted, I know for a fact you’ve had your own fair share too, because that’s the reality of life. But this last trial is the one that shook me to my core and had me searching like a mad woman for answers as to why it was happening–and how I could possibly even survive it.

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I lost my Dad to cancer last month–if you’re a follower of mine, this is old news. But–it was absolutely horrific.

Every day leading up to his death was like walking through every level of hell–slowly– for lack of a better term. There’s no other way to describe it. The images…the sounds…the sleepless nights…the cries for God while we look on, helpless…the torment of rubbing morphine in his cheeks, praying it’ll absorb–but to no avail. The horrible, wrenching pain that came with lifting him up, laying him back down, lifting him up, laying him back down…because he became so restless and cried out for “home” every few minutes. And all along, in the back of my mind, I reminded myself that millions of people go through this, and have already gone through this, very thing. And it is simply unbearable. If you disagree–it’s because you haven’t been there.

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This trial was so consuming that I hate to even put it in the past tense–sometimes it still consumes me. Yesterday, at my Dad’s memorial service, it consumed me all over again.

I’ve suffered from nightmares where I relived the memory over and over mercilessly–I sometimes see his face on strangers that pass and worry that I’m going crazy. I cry over sad songs in the car and torture myself with stacks of pictures and yellowed photo albums. It’s beyond just missing him. And even with a firm testimony of the gospel and with peace that he is exactly where the Lord prepared him for, it is still too much for me to handle at times. It steals my breath–and it can steal my joy.

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So, the other day, I turned to the scriptures. I needed help.

I wanted to know where that phrase was that people kept repeating to me in church and at work and over the phone. Why did the Lord “trust me so much”?! Why did He think I could handle these kinds of trials?

And then I realized: I couldn’t find that quote because it isn’t there.

It never mentions anywhere in the scriptures that the Lord won’t give you more than you can handle. Yes, in 1 Corinthians 10:13 it speaks of Him giving us an escape from temptations so that it’s not too much to bear. But when it comes to pain, trials, heartache, and burdens– not once does it say it won’t be more than we can bear. Instead, it beautifully says this instead:

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me…for my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matt. 11: 28-30)

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The words struck my heart, as you can imagine. Christ is speaking to those of us who are carrying burdens much too heavy for our own shoulders. And in that one verse he simply states the reason why we are given more than we can handle: It’s so we can come to him. It’s so we can trust him enough to hand over our heavy, crippling burdens and let him carry the load.

You might be heavy laden right now like I was before reading and re-reading and re-reading once again this scripture that has never stuck out to me as much as it has lately.

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You might be shrunken with sadness or drowning in debt. You might be overwhelmingly angry at someone at church or aching under the pressures of raising children or maybe the inability to have them. You might be dealing with a terminal disease and you still have young children. And chances are–you might need your Redeemer to find you on the path and take up that heavy cross you’re dragging. Besides, even he tells us that he’s more equipped to carry it, so why not hand it over?

I’ve come to learn–slowly but surely–why I need Him.

I suppose it’s because of pride that I always thought I could just do things on my own. I’m strong, I’d say. I’m a tough cookie. I can help others through their tribulations while carrying mine all by myself. Well…wasn’t I wrong.

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I didn’t really know what needing him meant until I had no other choice. I didn’t know what it meant until I wrapped my arms around my middle so I wouldn’t fall apart–or the time I choked on tears and yelled toward Heaven. Or the times when I was utterly alone, and the silence was too much to bear. Those are the times that taught me he’s not just a want or a convenient symbol of love or a reason to do good deeds.

No, he’s the very air we breathe.

And he’s the only one who can make it bearable when life is simply anything but.

1,868 thoughts on “God will give you more than you can handle: I guarantee it.

  1. I don’t think God gives us more than we can handle, I know Satan does. God had given us a place to lay our burdens and receive rest.

    • We wouldn’t need rest if it wasn’t too heavy. He gives us burdens that He and we can carry together. We can do all things but we need him to strengthen us or it’s too much.

    • God DOES give you more than you can handle so you have to turn to him. Otherwise, why would we need him if we could do it on out own?

    • Amen to this. This is the way I think as well. God doesn’t look at someone and say, “I think I’ll give that person cancer.” Free will happens, things just happen, Satan happens. God gives us the strength to handle it if we trust in Him.

    • Thanks for sharing this. In so many ways I have been through each and every phase of the things that you have shared. I was a part of a family of six; I am now the one who was left behind. I am so emotionally drained, I always thought that I could help my family through their trials, and I could fix things; but in a blink of an eye now I am a widow. I feel God has given me a mountain that I can not climb, he has given me more than I can handle. I have to realize that so many have been in this same situation and have made it through, only because it is God’s plan. He says that he will never leave us; but sometimes I feel so alone. I know in my heart that he has never forgotten me; so I must remember his promise in order to survive. He loves us for we are his children and we must trust in him with all of our being, and maybe some day we will understand. ..Lovina Griffon-January 15, 2016

    • the only way we “handle” it is with God. We could not bear it without turning to Him for the strength and peace we need in the overwhelming times we go through. God’s strength saved me from suicide because I was too weak and emotional to deal with it on my own. So yes, it was too much for me, but God brought me through it. And I learned that nothing is too big for God to help me through.

  2. Beautifully said. I too went through a long painful ordeal as my husband went through the journey of getting accepted to be on a waiting list for a heart transplant. There were days when I left to go to work, wondering if he would still be alive when I returned. The waiting continued for two years before he received his heart. There were days when all I could do was concentrate on getting through, moment by moment. God was there with us through all the moments.
    I do understand your search to find the scripture, to find answers. You went to the very best place to find it, in God’s word. Keep in mind though that God’s people are human too and people were trying to help. What helps one doesn’t always help another. I too heard the same words from people trying to help. I saw it though as an affirmation that I would get through because I can do all things through God who strengthens me, not by my strength but His. In a way we’re both helped by our friends. I found strength through their words yet you searched to find your answer in His word when theirs missed the mark. Your trial was harder than mine because you knew the end was near and it was a difficult end. I had a glimmer of hope. I am glad you shared this. I am sure if someone struggling reads this they will also feel the strength to continue. GOD bless you.

  3. Just prior to reading this, I told my husband that I wanted to die. Life has been beyond what I can bear for a long time now. Chronic Lyme Disease & becoming disabled by it; my mother’s death from multiple myeloma; my husband’s massive stroke at 48 & the ensuing losses of his job, our financial stability, our home; our daughter’s homosexuality; our other daughter’s moral failures that led to her becoming a single mom; our son failing high school because he refuses to do homework; my father dying on Thanksgiving after suffering a brutal 1 1/2 years with lung cancer… There’s more, believe it or not.

    Thank you for writing this. It is encouraging to know that God doesn’t expect me to be able to withstand all of the trials of life as though the immense pain of it all doesn’t faze me. It does. Thank you for letting me know I’m not the only person in the world who feels inadequate to carry my own burdens. I will cast my cares upon Him, because HE cares for me!

    • talk to him dearly deep in your heart.. he will hear you.. talk to Him about your problem..tell Him about everything.. talk to Him a Friend, father and husband.. ask Him everything you what to utter in you mouth… He will give you answer but PLEASE dont forget to ASK FOR FORGIVENESS..

    • There were several comments I read that touched my heart, but not like yours! I could almost put my name in in place of yours. My son’s homosexuality and AIDS I fear will be my undoing, and I don’t know whether it’s worse to watch him die or worse to die myself and think of him being alone. My constant prayer seems to be “I trust you Lord, I trust you Lord, HELP!!” Still, God is faithful, and I certainly have ton more compassion and understanding that I would have ever thought possible. Thanks so much for sharing!

    • Hi Julie, I’m so sorry to hear of your struggles and trials. Life is so hard when our physical health (and that of our loved ones) is failing. Are you open to learning more about natural forms of healthcare?

  4. The picture of Jesus catching ,holding the tired sinner/saint . Is one of my favorites ,I know the artists first name is Max,I cantbe positive. Anyway your post was shared with me,when I really needed to be reminded of where my heart and life should be. So I will press on thru another day. Godspeed to u sister,I’m very sorry to hear of tour fathers passing

  5. Actually, it IS true. To quote from the King James version of the Bible, 1 Corinthians 10:13 states:

    “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

    I appreciate the point you’re trying to make. I really do. Please consider that God will never give us more than we can bear. That’s direct scripture that I didn’t write. Our coming to Him is not to seek support for what we cannot bear, but to seek help from him to better bear what cross(es) may be on our backs. It’s how we choose to handle the situation that helps determine what we get from it along the way and thereafter.

    • She quoted that scripture. The bible says that God will make a way of escape when we are tempted so it isn’t more than we can bear. God is saying here that he won’t let you be tempted to the point where you have no choice but to sin and rebel. When it comes to trials of heartache, and being broken…for one (how is that tempting?) God does give us more than we can bear in that context. How is he supposed to the glory for something that we know how to handle? They’re two different topics.

  6. I just spent about 20 minutes writing my response to your blog post – which I found in my Facebook feed. I was ready to send it but decided against it, because you probably do not want to hear the truth. I am sure your blog post was published because you expected to be supported for what you have experienced and how you perceive it.
    But I saved it and will share it with you if you are willing to hear the truth about what you wrote. I leave it up to you.
    Sydney Evans

  7. I too have found this phrase to be annoying. The corrected version, which I realized through various personal struggles, is this – God never gives you more than He can handle. The struggles we face in this life are quite often beyond our own strength. But they are never beyond His.

  8. First of all let me say that I am so sorry to hear about your dad’s passing on. I can relate in more ways than I want to my dad died when I was 10 years old. I am now 62 and it still to this day haunts my many nights and most especially when I’m going through serious trials in my life. I find myself calling out to him and even being angry that he gave up on life so I felt. He was only 36 and died in his sleep I strongly feel of a broken heart, he and mom weren’t on the best of terms. The bottom line for me was I once reflected on something someone once said to me at church “in the pre-existence I knew a lot of what I would be going through in this life and chose to come anyway. So I have to believe that if that statement is true well then I must surely have the strength to carry on although not always true.” We recently or actually 8 years ago our granddaughter also passed on and I trust that she is with them all right now bringing joy. I do not want this writing to be about me. I wanted to share that I’m not sure how old your dad was but what I read is what a great daughter you were to have been there for him, give service in his last moments on earth. I’m so sorry again for the pain you are going through….please know we will pray for strength to get up everyday and remember the good. Thank you for being a good daughter who took care of her dad when he needed it most. Prayers for you as you travel through this journey on earth till you meet him again and yes the Savior is my one true always there confidant.

  9. Thank you for your excellent article. 2 Corinthians 12:8-10 (KJV) 8 For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. 9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.
    Jesus allowed more to come Paul’s way than he could handle. God’s Grace is sufficient for all our trials and tribulations…and yes we cannot bear them alone!!!

  10. talk to him dearly deep in your heart.. he will hear you.. talk to Him about your problem..tell Him about everything.. talk to Him as Friend, father and husband.. ask Him everything you what to utter in your mouth… He will give you answer but PLEASE dont forget to ASK FOR FORGIVENESS..

  11. People interpret scripture different in different situations. I can see both sides if this. I always believed that he doesn’t give us more than we can bear but I see why she said that he can. I also believe that the scripture about being tempted was about being tempted to make wrong choices, not about bearing through a struggle… Either way we all take things different because none of our struggles are the same. I love the article she wrote and I know she didn’t write it to make people feel bad for her. If you disagree with what she wrote, feel free no to share it. Don’t say rude things about something someone put their heart into just because you see it a different way. She is making a difference in people’s lives. Good job on the article, I hope many more find comfort in your words. The others can put it where the sun don’t shine.

  12. As I read through your story, the one thing stood out to me was – doing it myself. Like you, I have always been strong, a fighter, did not need to lean on anyone else but I was always there for others and encouraged others to lean on Christ – just did not do this myself. After walking through a extremely difficult period, I was reading my daily devotion – the trial and death of Christ and suddenly something stood out to be as if it was in bold ink. When Jesus could not carry his cross and Simon was forced to help him by the Romans, I picture Simon at first resenting the association of helping a condemned man, but by the time they got to hill, he was carrying not only the cross but helping to hold Christ up. Christ was so beaten – Isaiah tells us he was almost unrecognizable as a man. What stands out is Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, walking to his death, needed help to get there. While Jesus himself did not ask for the help, when it was provided, he did not refuse it. Suddenly, the asking and receiving help from others was no longer a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. As Christ followers, we do not want to fall into the ‘lazy, sloth’ category so we refuse and do not ask for help. This becomes a form of sin – pride that we justify because we do not want to be seen as ‘needy, lazy, taking advantage’ of others. Asking for help when it is needed allows others to feel needed. By allowing help, we allow others to become a part of our story, lives and testimony. If Jesus had to have help to achieve salvation for us, then what makes us think we can not ask or accept help?

  13. I get it. He gives us unbearable so that we will seek Him and find His way of escape. The bearing comes through Him, because of Him. Without Him it all is unbearable. I’ve lived and live unbearable, but He bears it for me, with me. A concept some people can never make peace with, trying to wrestle it out of Scripture to find their comfort in words. But the comfort is only in the Word, only in the Comforter.

  14. Thank you so much for posting this blog. I needed to hear this today and know that someone else was questioning the same thing I was and felt the same way I did because the pain is too unbearable. Today marks the two year mark of my daddy’s passing from cancer as well. It has been very difficult today.

  15. You have said so beautifully something that I have believed for a long time. My paraphrase of that particular saying is “God will not give you more than He will give you the grace to handle”. I find myself drawn so much closer to Him when I’m going through the “rough patches” than when times are good. When you have more than you can bear, you have no choice but to rest in His arms. Thank you for writing it. (My family is going through one of those patches right now and my heart is breaking, but He is sufficient for me.)

  16. I also hate that saying! When people tell me that I tell them that can’t be true. Why are so many people committing suicide if they can handle so much. My son couldn’t take the pain anymore and decided to end his life.

    • I lost my husband 1 and a half years ago, then 6 months later my only grandchild, suicide age 22, then 8 months later my oldest brother. The lost of my grandchild has been a struggle but I do have my faith and one day our souls will be together again but from now until then is really hard. Sometimes I think Mental illness plays a part in suicide. He had so much going for him and was suppose to be on meds but had thrown them away. There is so much I do not understand.He too had so much pain inside. I talked to him often and never really thought he would do such a thing. I feel so sorry for you, it is hard to move on but we must do so.

    • My heart goes out to you Kim, I lost my 25 yr. old daughter 260 days ago and it’s shaken everything, everything that I ever believed in, faith ? I was never wishy washy, and I prayed, I prayed for protection for my girls and I believed, I really with all my heart believed, and now to this day try to find some kind of loophole, some way to get her back or to make all this crap not real, my hopes only come in talking to others that have gone through what I’m going through, and hope isn’t the right word but it’s a feeling that touches my heart when i’m with these folks, that i know that they know what gut wrenching emptiness that goes way beyond any pain i’ve ever felt, and then the other feeling is anger, just those two, and im sure i am bouncing all over and not making any sense, my thoughts are so mixed up screwed up and i’m shaking like a leaf so i better stop, maybe i just needed to talk about it, idk, i’ve been reading everyone’s comments for over a week now and wanted to reply to some but never got the nerve too and didnt want to upset anyone because my anger is at God, and it seems like that’s where they say i should put all this junk that’s killing me over on him, but i feel like i cant trust him anymore, but i still have respect for my brothers and sisters out there that are hurting and wish them all no pain. Mike D.

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  18. I lean on the book of Psalms. Specifically chapter 46. Since that was what I was read before hearing the overwhelming tragic news of my husband’s death. Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. I greatly urge you to read that whole chapter, and use it for strength through all of your overwhelming days and even moments! I truly hope that this helps you as much as it has me. God Bless you! This was just what I needed! I often tell myself that God will not give me more than I can handle. Thanks for sharing!

  19. I agree that leaning on God is, a great source of strength at such times, and many of us are able to “feel” that needed source of warmth..yet many others feel God’s warmth and support only when it is incarnated (made flesh) by another of our fellow travelers….and that is our heavenly calling.

  20. I went through a similar situation more than 20 years now I know the feeling and reading through your post it remained me of a pain that after all this year’s still comes and goes!
    I had taken me forever to accepted! But after a battle of many years I finally was able to go back to church!

  21. I think you have to go through something that breaks you before you can understand what the writer of the blog is getting at. My husband and father to my two daughters just passed away the beginning of November. I was the one that found him. I understand how hard it is to hear people tell you that God knows you can bear this. I can’t and what about my kids the just lost their Dad. I am 34 years old our daughters are 10 and 6. This post helped me to know that I am not the only one who is having a hard time with that phrase. Thank you.

  22. Good article and your spot on. Makes me think of Hebrews 5:8

    Though he was a son, he learned obedience through the things that he suffered, and so will we.

    We’re called to be like him.

  23. I am walking through that slow hell right now with my mom…doctor tells her she needs more chemo…she does not want it…I don’t want her to die. I am being so selfish.

  24. Thank you for these words. My husband of near 45 years died unexpectantly 2 years ago and I continue to struggle. To make sense of why. And how do I find peace and any joy without him. I am blessed with wonderful children, grandchildren, and family members that loved him so much. But, no one can really understand my loss.

  25. It’s correct that the Bible doesn’t say that God won’t send us more
    than we can bear, but He does promise to bear it with us and stand beside us and help us get through it.

  26. Well done. That phrase bothered me as well since it was usually said as if it were biblical. How one person explained her thinking on the matter was this; when going through trials/pain we may be tempted to despair or lose faith. God then provides the way out by offering His love and Himself to be leaned on, cried to, and trusted.

  27. There are no words to say THANK YOU in a big enough way to all of you. I wish I could respond to each and every one of you, but there are so many comments and not enough hours in the day! But I read each and every one, and I want you to know each story, each post, each word encourages my heart every day! Thank you so much for reading, and thank you for reaching outside of yourself to encourage others and share your experiences. Love to you all!

  28. He does give you more than you can handle alone if you don’t seek His help. If you are aware and look around you will see others who will do His work by helping you carry your load. Often times we feel alone because we create our own reality.

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  30. I love this article. I lost my Mama 7 1/2 months ago. Her death still has the power to bring me to my knees. Thank you for writing this inspired article.

  31. People always forget the rider that comes with that phrase. “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle .. WITH HIS HELP”. These moments are designed to teach us how to turn to the Lord and give him our trust. We, each of us, are stubborn people who want to be independent. How do you teach a child like that to be humble and to lean on others and trust others? I lost my dad to cancer 11 years ago. It happened during my divorce. Talk about insane. I literally retreated from the world because I couldn’t handle it. I admit, I went just a little crazy. It was too much. While I didn’t learn to lean on the Lord till much later, when I look back on that time, I see the hand of God in so many ways. I couldn’t see it at the time, but he was there holding me through all that and I see it now. When you get to the point where you can finally breathe, you will look back and see all the miracles he performed for you to get you through.

  32. Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful! I have just begun reading Sherri Burgess’ book “Conner”. She and Rick lost their 2 year old in a drowning accident. It is a hard read, but an amazing testimony of how God gets us through the terrible times this old world throws at us. I have struggled to understand the ways of God, and faith, my entire life. Finally, at age 58, through God sent co-workers, the book and this insightful article things are making sense. Thank you

  33. I lost my husband 17 yes ago to cancer and what I would like to share here is not the utter pain and feel of emptiness that I went though for 3 long years ,,, I want to share God’s beautiful love & mercy that he bestowed on my husband , my husband died from Melanoma cancer , he had surgery to remove the cancer but it returned 9 months later with a vengeance, in the 3months remaining of his life the tumors inside his body was growing so large they were displaceing his organs , the Doctors said the pain should’ve been unbearable but my husband only took 1 hydrocodone a day until his death .. Although his body was being racked by unimaginable pain he felt nothing, Praise God !!! I will always remember what his Doctor said to him two weeks before he left this earth , the doctor who also was a Christian ,hugged my husband and told him ” it was a Honor knowing him ” and the doctor went on to say ” he knew The Lord , was holding my husband because the pain should’ve been unbearable & my husband was taking nothing !!” Even when he was dying he required no medicine for pain !! I don’t know why my husband was spared from the pain when others who are also believers have had to endure so much , I only know I’m so very thankful to my Father in Heaven , that my Lord took his torment so Sam would not have to suffer it !! To God be the Glory in Jesus name!! I just wanted to share the merciful kindness that God granted my husband !! I pray the Lord wraps His loving Arms around you and takes this pain from your heart & mind as only He can do …in Jesus name Amen

  34. She didn’t die, but it feels like she did, especially when I see her as she comes to get the boys. No, she just divorced me after 20 years of marriage after she had an affair.and wouldn’t talk about it. Yes, life is unbearable, “friends” just don’t seem to ever have “time” or seem to really care, life’s just to busy for them I guess.
    But God…… He never lets me down, he always brings a word of encouragement at just the right time. When I think it’s just too much, suddenly he’s there again.
    What else can be said, the world, people, those you love the most will forsake you and break every promise they make, ….but God….. He will always walk with you and bear your burdens with you… If you allow him to.

  35. Thank you Sara!! This is so true This is so true! OUT OF HIS LOVE FOR US GOD DOES GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE.
    In 1999 I cared for and watched my husband suffer and die a horrible death by a rapidly progressive cancer. Many times in caring for him he would forget who I was and thought I was trying to kill him. He would hit and kick me as I tried to help him. These are things he would have been appalled at. He was not that man.
    After he died I thought I could not bear to keep going. After many months of agonizing grief, thoughts of suicide and isolation away from my job I met some awesome loving people that nursed me back toward mental health with their kindness, love and encouragement. One thing I learned from them was to search for my answers in the Bible. I learned to praise God in all things, from the highest mountain peaks to the lowest valleys. It is in those lowest valleys that I came to know the depth of God’s love and mercy. Since that time there have been wonderful mountain peaks and some deep valleys of emotional and health issues I thought I might not survive (doctors weren’t sure either). Today I am in another valley of health with heart issues and a double surgery that was only partially successful and will have another in a few months.

    There are so many reminders in the Bible of God’s promises to us tho we sometimes are unable to recall them, unable to reconcile them to our situation, times of not believing Him. There are even times when the last thing we want to do is call out to Him, read the bible or pray because we are so beaten down there seems there is no real help or truth to the promises that He will never leave us or forsake us in our troubles. More than once, indeed many times, in my life I did not believe, and in fact, tried to fix everything myself. Boy, those were disasters. After a major surgery March of 2014 I went for months not knowing if I was going to live thru the post surgical complication that threatened to take my life. None of the specialist could find an answer to why or how it came about or if it could be treated because they had never heard of this condition before…”You are one for the books” they would tell me. Even with months of uncertainty health wise I grew closer and closer to the realization I was right where God wanted me to be so that I could come to understand that. My greatest growth and my greatest joy in Him and in my life came out of all this chaos.

    Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    John 16:33 I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.

    James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

    I pray that you are many times over blessed with the knowledge that you are loved beyond human knowledge and that your grief will turn to joy and dancing when you see your dad again in heaven. God bless you!

  36. The scripture in 1 Corinthians DOES say that the Lord WILL provide a way to escape even the most horrible of trials. A man named Neal A Maxwell said “It’s not whether we can endure it’s HOW we endure.” These trials as hard and painful as they get do allow us to develop faith, hope and grace under pressure. Moreover, how are we suppose to truly know the Lord Jesus Christ if we don’t know and understand Getheseme and Calvary? How are we suppose to lift others without some form of empathy? Yes, trials suck, I lost my Dad at age 14 from ALS. He was wripped from our lives but have faith in the all knowing! Again, read the scripture, he WILL NOT give us more but WILL provide AN ESCAPE! Trust me, my family of 6 lost my Dad from ALS in 1984. My mom was 42 years old at the time and had to try an raise an entire family. It’s taken years BUT we love The Lord and his ways are not ours. He is the grand master, the architect and great physician. He has overcome the world. Who are we to question his timing and eternal plan!
    Thanks

  37. I list my mom and then a grandbaby went home to be someone else’s grandson…it was far worse than loosing my mom! I told my husband the trials were getting progressively worse and I didn’t want to know what was next! Wellbit has been 9 years of shear living hell! I often wishes for death. I asked God why the tools he had given me were not working lime they did for others. His reply, “Who says they don’t work? You’re not dead yet are you?” You would be dead without them!” Not much comfort since I wished for death. One day something happened..I finally felt deep in my soul it is what it is until it isn’t and it wasn’t going to kill me. People sayy they are grateful for their trials. I am NOT! I am grateful for what I learned. 1. I don’t have a testimony but am truly converted. I can’t quit. 2. I have list almost all judgement and have a much deeper ability to love people where they are. There by the grace of God go I! Literally! 3. Grace is everything. All things are possible with Christ because of the enabling power of Grace. It is about learning to fully use the Atonement and drink deeply of the cup of Grace. Remember he asks us to take upbhos cross!

  38. Unfortunately, God’s trials have caused a rift between us. I’m angry with Him for all he’s put my family through, yet He doesn’t help us out. My family never had money, my older brother was severely disabled and since I had to help my parents take care of him I never really got a childhood. I got my first job when I was 13 and have been working ever since. I work hard and treat everyone kindly even though I can’t stand my job. I always pray to Him to let me win the lottery or make money on stocks, but He always chooses to ignore me.
    I’ve never had much luck with women and I prayed to find a girlfriend. I found a girl I really liked, who I didn’t have much trouble talking to, but she stopped answering me so it didn’t work out. I really don’t know why God’s punishing me and I’ve lost a little bit of faith because He hasn’t done a single good thing in my life. These trials have made me consider suicide, though I’d never go through with it. My life has gotten to the point where I don’t even pray anymore, because I know that God will make my life worse if I do.

  39. I’m so sorry for your loss. I can relate to what you went through, as I cared for my brother-in-law, and we went through the same things. He was in pain every time we had to move him, but we had to move him. We just did it as gently as possible, but then you feel bad for going so slow and prolonging it. It’s horrible to see someone suffer so much, and know that you are bringing them more pain. I agree that we are given much more than we can bear. I lost my son. I had my husband, who I’d plan to continue to grow old with, do horrible things that hurt so much. I’ve had to fight for custody of my grandson to get him out of a horrible enviornment that he was forced to live in, since the courts would not do what they knew was right in the first place. He spent 3 years living with these awful people while his mother used the money and food stamps that she got for him to buy her drugs, and he was often in a home with little to no food, and no running water. He was not encouraged to learn, but he was encouraged to fight and throw temper tantrums to get his way. I’ve endured trying to break these behaviors from him after 3 years of them being ingrained in him,. I know lots of others who have suffered horribly, as well. I am so glad to finally hear someone say that this saying is not true. I know people mean well, but they often say the wrong things when they are trying to comfort, especially to a mother who has lost her child. I hoe people read your message, and learn from it, so that they can actually say things that might be comforting instead of more hurtful to people who are grieving.

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