God will give you more than you can handle: I guarantee it.


There’s a certain phrase I’ve come to really dislike.

All my life, I’ve heard this phrase whenever I go through a rough patch. *And by rough patch, I mean a prickly, gnarly patch that leaves me bleeding to near death*. You’re probably familiar with those kinds of “patches”.

“God will never give you more than you can handle” is the phrase I’m referring to.

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And it’s a sweet sentiment, really. The people who say it are speaking from caring and concerned hearts.

BUT–it isn’t true.

I know that sounds harsh, but I promise I haven’t suddenly lost my mind or have become an angry-with-God bitter woman who hates the world. Actually, when I realized the simple fact that God can–and will–give us more than we can possibly bear, it got easier.

And it all started to make more sense.

I’ve often trudged through trials that overwhelm me. Ever since my childhood there have been trials that have made me “grow up” pretty fast. But granted, I know for a fact you’ve had your own fair share too, because that’s the reality of life. But this last trial is the one that shook me to my core and had me searching like a mad woman for answers as to why it was happening–and how I could possibly even survive it.

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I lost my Dad to cancer last month–if you’re a follower of mine, this is old news. But–it was absolutely horrific.

Every day leading up to his death was like walking through every level of hell–slowly– for lack of a better term. There’s no other way to describe it. The images…the sounds…the sleepless nights…the cries for God while we look on, helpless…the torment of rubbing morphine in his cheeks, praying it’ll absorb–but to no avail. The horrible, wrenching pain that came with lifting him up, laying him back down, lifting him up, laying him back down…because he became so restless and cried out for “home” every few minutes. And all along, in the back of my mind, I reminded myself that millions of people go through this, and have already gone through this, very thing. And it is simply unbearable. If you disagree–it’s because you haven’t been there.

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This trial was so consuming that I hate to even put it in the past tense–sometimes it still consumes me. Yesterday, at my Dad’s memorial service, it consumed me all over again.

I’ve suffered from nightmares where I relived the memory over and over mercilessly–I sometimes see his face on strangers that pass and worry that I’m going crazy. I cry over sad songs in the car and torture myself with stacks of pictures and yellowed photo albums. It’s beyond just missing him. And even with a firm testimony of the gospel and with peace that he is exactly where the Lord prepared him for, it is still too much for me to handle at times. It steals my breath–and it can steal my joy.

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So, the other day, I turned to the scriptures. I needed help.

I wanted to know where that phrase was that people kept repeating to me in church and at work and over the phone. Why did the Lord “trust me so much”?! Why did He think I could handle these kinds of trials?

And then I realized: I couldn’t find that quote because it isn’t there.

It never mentions anywhere in the scriptures that the Lord won’t give you more than you can handle. Yes, in 1 Corinthians 10:13 it speaks of Him giving us an escape from temptations so that it’s not too much to bear. But when it comes to pain, trials, heartache, and burdens– not once does it say it won’t be more than we can bear. Instead, it beautifully says this instead:

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me…for my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matt. 11: 28-30)

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The words struck my heart, as you can imagine. Christ is speaking to those of us who are carrying burdens much too heavy for our own shoulders. And in that one verse he simply states the reason why we are given more than we can handle: It’s so we can come to him. It’s so we can trust him enough to hand over our heavy, crippling burdens and let him carry the load.

You might be heavy laden right now like I was before reading and re-reading and re-reading once again this scripture that has never stuck out to me as much as it has lately.

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You might be shrunken with sadness or drowning in debt. You might be overwhelmingly angry at someone at church or aching under the pressures of raising children or maybe the inability to have them. You might be dealing with a terminal disease and you still have young children. And chances are–you might need your Redeemer to find you on the path and take up that heavy cross you’re dragging. Besides, even he tells us that he’s more equipped to carry it, so why not hand it over?

I’ve come to learn–slowly but surely–why I need Him.

I suppose it’s because of pride that I always thought I could just do things on my own. I’m strong, I’d say. I’m a tough cookie. I can help others through their tribulations while carrying mine all by myself. Well…wasn’t I wrong.

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I didn’t really know what needing him meant until I had no other choice. I didn’t know what it meant until I wrapped my arms around my middle so I wouldn’t fall apart–or the time I choked on tears and yelled toward Heaven. Or the times when I was utterly alone, and the silence was too much to bear. Those are the times that taught me he’s not just a want or a convenient symbol of love or a reason to do good deeds.

No, he’s the very air we breathe.

And he’s the only one who can make it bearable when life is simply anything but.

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  1,617 comments for “God will give you more than you can handle: I guarantee it.

  1. Allen
    October 31, 2014 at 7:35 pm

    I work for Children Services… I also have the gift of discernment… I know that she has spirits.. thereby corrupting my son… all my praying and taking a thority over those evil spirits,
    has still not resulted in deliverance of my sons.. God is letting them be destroyed.. surely they can be rebuilt. but at what price will this come.. I know the devil wants to take them out before they can be born again. please pray for them..G & J
    and she is y. thanks again

  2. Allen
    October 31, 2014 at 7:44 pm

    and to top it off, not only do I work for Children Services but I have the gift of discernment… I know that she has demonic spirits… they have admitted to that too… yet evenly as young adults now, they choose to live under her evil rule… years of prayer binding the devil, has not yielded to my sons deliverance from bondage… I bear no ill will against her b it demonic oppression or mental illness. but for whatever reason God has chosen not to deliver them or her. priest pray for my family

  3. Allen
    October 31, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    additionally not only do I have the gift of discernment of spirits, and have been binding the devil for years now… for whatever reason God has chosen not to deliver my sons… I also work for Children Services.lol.

    they have made their choices.. learning to let go is a painful process… she has taught them the sure path to destruction… and they sop it up like biscuits and gravy… please pray for my family, thank you.

  4. denice
    November 4, 2014 at 8:49 am

    Oh, Sweet One… Not more than you can handle but definately more than you care to handle. You are strong and worthy to overcome this life and HE will prove it to you. A child made of HIS own hands through HIS heart. You can do this life. Life will be wild, crazy and bumpy but you are graced to be an overcomer. ♡

  5. Jackie
    November 12, 2014 at 5:37 pm

    I have been saying this for a long time and you are the only person I have heard that disagrees with this not so true phrase. I hate hearing it. If it were true then why do people commit suicide is my come back. Sorry about your dad!!!

  6. Denise
    November 22, 2014 at 12:17 pm

    I am with you Kayla and Jackie. Misreading, or not reading far enough, in the scriptures is why people get this wrong. Eg 1 Corinthians 10:13. People seem to stop reading after ‘…above that you can bear…’ But the scripture goes on to say ‘…BUT will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that he may be able to bear it.’ He will provide a way if we reach out and ‘yoke’ ourselves with Him.

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